I Have Weird Friends

5 Feb

I was originally going to make several of these separate posts, and I may still expand some of them (especially if people are curious), but for the moment I’m just going to present these as disconnected-but-sorta-related tidbits. Most of them are about my friends, a few of them are about me. Here’s a very partial list of people I know:

 

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A person in love with both halves of a monogamous couple, who would be ecstatic if she got a chance to be in a triad with them.

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A person who is widely known to be very sexually active, who nonetheless doesn’t experience sexual attraction. He enjoys the physical sensation, and likes getting to know people in an intimate way, but doesn’t feel the instinctive sexual attraction most sexuals do.

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A person who tends to stop experiencing sexual attraction during the first couple sexual experiences with a new partner, and thinks that’s a pretty reasonable way to do things.

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Two people who are deeply incapable of understanding the social function of jealousy, to the point of doing things that anyone else could easily have told them would provoke very strong jealous reactions.

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A person who is in something like romantic love with a small, tightknit group of platonic friends.

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A person whose preferred “aftercare” after an intense BDSM scene is to immediately starting intellectually dissecting it.

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A person who fetishizes traditional fancy-restaurant-and-wine dates, in much the same way other people have kinks.

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A person who actively seeks out “emotional one-night-stands”: intimate, personal, flirtatious conversations that last several hours without necessarily leading to anything afterwards.

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Multiple asexual people who are very active in the BDSM community.

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A lesbian in a serious relationship with a man.

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A person who thinks an intense game of chess is amazing foreplay.

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A person who met her current, long-term partner online (not through a dating website), and didn’t meet her in meatspace until after they were in a relationship.

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If I have a point here, it’s the amazing range of experiences and drives people have. The idea that all of these people could be served by the same very specific set of relationship structures and assumptions just seems laughable to me.

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4 Responses to “I Have Weird Friends”

  1. J February 8, 2011 at 3:51 pm #

    I like this. A lot.

    I also love the term “meatspace”.

  2. jtr February 13, 2011 at 7:06 pm #

    does the person who thinks chess is foreplay know m.? because i think they should be introduced.

  3. F February 14, 2011 at 10:41 am #

    Wait. An amazing game of chess is unusual as foreplay?

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